« Reply #10 on: January 16, 2012, 05:04:55 PM »
Just want to add .....
Know where your priorities are and stick to them.
One main reason my marriage collapsed kai ang akong ex- morag dli minyo. Ang naong to-a ghapon sa iyang pamilya.
Eg, at one time we went home for a 6-wk holiday. We planned to leave the kids in her parents’ place and travel around the Phil. Ang nahitabo, we ended up staying in her parents’ home practically the whole holiday.
Later, we consulted a marriage counsellor. Her excuse was, “My father had a stroke and I had to stay home to look after him”. I argued, “Before we went there, she had siblings to look after her father. When we went there, all of a sudden, there was nobody to look after her father”.
There was also in-law interference. Comments like, “Usik2X lang na sa kwarta. Kami dinhi wa gani ipalit og bugas”.
When we mentioned about the kids sent to very expensive schools here, their comment was, “Kanang imong mga anak ipa-eskuela lang na sa Ateneo dinhi.”. I didnit like the idea for 2 reasons, (1) di ko gusto ang mga anak mahilayo nako; (2) cheaper tuod, but in the long run it will be more expensive. Kai, hasta akong mga anak boyboyon. Kahbao kana sa ato. Moingon dayon, “Kanang utang nimo namo, di na kabyran og sapi”. In other words, we will be perpetually indebted to them. I stick to my gun.
Yep. Our marriage was way down the bottom of her priority list.
"Blood may be thicker than water, but love is thicker than anything." - Goldie Nash
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