"Loyalty Check" 
Take this quick true/false quiz and then follow the scoring instructions below.
1. ____ My spouse sometimes feels second place to my parents or siblings.
2. ____ My spouse feels I give more attention to work than to him/her.
3. ____ I sometimes talk sarcastically about my spouse.
4. ____ I laugh when others tell jokes that make their spouses seem incompetent or would make their spouse feel disrespected if they heard them.
5. ____ I don’t always carefully listen to my spouse when he/she is talking.
6. ____ My friends sometimes get more of my best time or happiest energy than my spouse.
7. ____ I sometimes get so carried away in my hobbies I don’t notice when my spouse is trying to get my attention.
8. ____ I sometimes feel that preparing for this baby (or taking care of the children) is more important than working on my relationship with my spouse.
9. ____ I sometimes get more worried about taking care of our home than I do about taking care of my spouse.
10. ____ My spouse sometimes thinks working to strengthen our marriage is my last priority.
SCORING: For every item you mark FALSE, you get one point. If you have less than 10 points, circle one of the items you marked “TRUE” and spend this week doing whatever it takes to turn it around.